Our blog to talk about the trials and tribulations of miscarriage

Angels for my Christmas tree

Christmas creeps upon us. The air gets chillier, and the nights become darker. There are homes filled with Christmas cheer, the windows filled with colourful lights. Shops filled with gifts and songs about happiness and family everywhere I go. A sense of anticipation in the air. I find myself thinking…

October again – a poem by Jude Davies

October 15th… again Two years ago today I laid in bed as other parents lit candles to create a wave of light.  I knew you were leaving me.  Two years ago today you entered the world too small to survive.  So tiny, but you filled my heart with love. So…

The Box – a poem by Jude Davies

There’s a box It’s a memory box but we don’t have many memories. The box feels cavernous. In the box are… Our first pregnancy test, our second pregnancy test. Your scan picture. Another scan picture.  And then… A baby-grow that you never got to wear A dummy, a bottle, never…

Dealing with Negative Thoughts

How many of us are guilty of having those automatic negative thoughts (the acronym for this is ANTs – and how annoying are ANTs)? Here are some ways of dealing with those annoying ANTs. I know for me, especially following my miscarriage, I had them running around my head almost…

Baby Loss Awareness Week 2021

With Baby Loss Awareness Week (BLAW) just around the corner I thought I would take this opportunity to talk to you about what Baby Loss Awareness week was like for me in 2020.  Baby Loss Awareness October 2020 Baby Loss Awareness Week 2020 was the first BLAW since I had…

Talking to Children about Miscarriage

Geoff and I had children from a previous marriage and hoped that our new pregnancy would strengthen our already blended family. We were so excited about announcing our first pregnancy to our children but had decided to wait for the 12 week scan. Due to Christmas our 12 week scan…

Sleep after miscarriage

After a miscarriage you may struggle with lack of sleep which can affect your mood (even more so). Lack of sleep has also been linked to  poor concentration, weight gain and depression. You are most likely feeling down after your miscarriage anyway so the lack of sleep may have even…

Self-Compassion and Letting Yourself Grieve

Guest blog by Caz Campbell of www.happykindcalm.co.uk Grieving the loss of your baby is a complicated process and unique to each person and family. Grief comes and goes, gets easier to manage over time but it can stay with you for a long time, sometimes forever. Stages of Grief You…

Grief after miscarriage

Today doesn’t feel like a great day, it’s not a bad day but my grief today is weighing heavy. It’s been 15 months since Morgan was cruelly taken away from us and 5 months since the same happened with Bee. Grief after miscarriage is normal and yet unsettling. We are…